Do you remember being little and the dumb fights you would get into with your siblings? The stupid things you would get mad about? At the time, they meant everything and were completely valid. Looking back, they were foolish. I was thinking about this the other day. I spent SO much time getting angry about ridiculous things. But you can rationalize that to kids. I sure as heck didn't listen to my parents when they tried telling me it wasn't something to get upset over. And my dad always said when I was older I understand. He was right. He always is. Experience is the greatest teacher.
It just really makes me frustrated all the time I wasted being mad for essentially no reason. That's another reason why I feel so strongly about being positive. I was the absolute worst dweller. When something upset me, I would constantly think about it and constantly feel bad wishing it could have went differently. But unless you're a time traveler (which I sadly am not), you cannot go back in time and work things in your favor. I remember in high school it got so bad, I would visualize putting my problems into a suitcase and letting them go. And it did help. But adulthood stresses led to anxiety and it was difficult to manage. If something happens that would normally make me angry, I try to think:
Will this matter tomorrow? Next week? Next month? Next year? In 5 years?
Focusing on the bigger picture, really puts your little issues into perspective. Things that seem like a huge deal at the time, most likely aren't. So next time you're in a similar situation, remember the things you thought were such an issue as a child and what they mean to you now. It will really make you think.
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