You're not perfect. Nobody is. And that's ok. If we were all perfect, we would have some boring lives. The craziness, the times that don't go as planned, they make for great memories. They teach us and help us grow. We need them. I have come to the conclusion that nobody ever has everything together. It's ingrained in us that that's the goal. To want more. To strive for more. To not be happy with what we have because it's never enough. Which sets us all up for failure.
If you don't follow the plan society has laid out for you, you are a failure. And that is not true. We need to spend less time listening to others and more time listening to ourselves. We are the ones that have to live with ourselves. Who have to look in the mirror everyday. We should like what we see. If you spend your life trying to please people, you're going to let down the most important person...yourself. There's a difference between being selfish and caring about yourself. You don't have to put yourself above everybody else all the time. But there will come times where you HAVE to choose yourself. Where you have to make a decision that displeases people, because it's what's right for you. Even if you fall flat on your face, you will learn. As long as you aren't making reckless decisions and expecting other people to clean up your mess, it is ok to make mistakes.
Do things your own way. Do what makes you happy. Don't worry about following the "ideal" path society expects of you. That your parents expect of you. You may get to the same point, just take a different path. You may not know where you're going. You may waste time and make mistakes. It may take trial and error to find out what you really want. Don't let other people bring you down for your mistakes. They make them, too. We ALL do. Whatever you do, is what you should be doing, as long as you're following your heart.
Now I'm not saying make bad decisions and do whatever you want no matter what other people say. I'm saying do what makes you HAPPY. (As long as your happiness doesn't cause anyone justifiable sadness) You don't NEED to go to college, or get a mundane 9-5 job that means nothing to you, or get married, or have kids if you don't want to. Travel the world. Open your own business. Move somewhere and start over. Chase your dreams! Don't let people tell you that you won't succeed. That you're not good enough. You owe it to yourself to TRY. You'll forever wonder "what if" if you don't.
I struggle with this all the time. I have about 10 different ideas in my head of how I want my life to go. And they cannot all exist in the same universe. I can't decide what path to take and I do not have my life together. I'm not where I thought I'd be at this point. And that makes me feel bad. My family pressures me and tries telling me what to do with my life. They get made when I do things they don't approve of. But I NEED to make my own mistakes. I need to figure out what makes me happy, because at the end of the day if I'm not happy, nothing else matters.
So try to have goals. And GO for them. Don't get down on yourself if you screw up. Just pick yourself up and try again. Have faith in yourself. Don't let ANYBODY determine how you feel about yourself. Only you know the whole story. Be the best self you can be, and don't worry about the little things. Know you can do whatever you put your mind to. It will not always be easy, but don't give up.
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